Focusing on the good in your relationship
God calls us to focus on things that are true, honest, just, lovely, and of good report. If we apply this to every aspect of our lives to include our relationships, I wonder if we focused on these things would Christians divorce rate decrease? The top reasons for divorce are basic incompatibility, infidelity, and money issues. Of all the reasons, only 1 is biblical grounds for divorce. Lets focus on the other two, incompatibility could equate to not being equally yoked, where one is a believer and the other is a nonbeliever. Money issues, is something that I understand personally as I have dealt with it up close and personal within my relationship. We have to draw clear lines with our spouses with spending and money especially if both parties are working. However, we should never put debt over our spouse regardless how much the debt is, life and the bond of that relationship is worth more than any monetary amount feasible. For those of you all struggling in your marriage, move out the way and give your husband over to God by praying to him, loving on him, and practicing patience. I would also urge you to focus on the good in that person by making a list of all the reasons you married them that have nothing to do with material things, and read it next time you need a pep talk as to why you should keep focusing on loving on that person right where they are, because no one is perfect, not even you!
See Philippians 4:8 for scripture on focusing on what is true, honest, just, lovely, and of good report.